Glued

I’m in love. No, not with a stripper.

I’m aware that being in another relationship so soon after the ex called it quits reeks of a rebound relationship. In fact, when I realized I was falling in the first place, I had the image of a 7’4“ basketball player jumping up, snatching the ball out of the air, and bringing it to his chest with elbows extended. REBOUND! So what does that mean? I’m not supposed to date?

Aside from some core similarities (Chinese, and with at least one parent that hates black people -- I guess I have a type!), the most striking thing about Vincy before we partnered up was just how she said things I thought I’d never hear from my ex.

”I support you having confidence in all areas of your life.“

”I want to go riding on the back of your motorcycle so I can squeeze you while you go VROOM VROOM!“

”You should call your ex-wife.“

”You can say what’s on your mind. I promise not to hold it against you now or six months in the future.“

”I love you. So much.“ I should state here that I didn’t hear my ex say ”I love you“ for the final half year or so of our relationship except to the dog.

But that isn’t why I’m with her. Those things are just so dazzling by contrast that they have to be mentioned. Aside from that, she plays every guitar song in Rock Band 2 on hard or expert. She drives turbo charged version of the car I do and works on cars as a hobby. She speaks Cantonese and Mandarin, and she’s watched enough anime to have picked up quite a bit of Japanese. She plays violin and piano. Her dimples are national treasures.

That’s not why I’m with her either. I’m with her because I feel absolutely free with her. It’s a new feeling for me to be free in a relationship; I don’t feel like I’m giving up things. I tell her whatever is on my mind and trust that we’ll be able to work out any situations that arise through communicating. Sure she’s great, but it’s how she supports my freedom and everything else I’m up to that glues me to the whole deal.

My time with her is so dense with stories that I won’t have time to tell them all, but the next one is really special to me.